Grief and Not Wanting to Be Alive

Here are a few signs that may indicate your thoughts, or the thoughts of someone you’re concerned about, are turning from normal grief toward dangerous suicidal ideation.

Normal Grief vs Depression

“Normal” is pretty much impossible to define in the context of grief, but professionals in bereavement education, coaching, and counseling have been trying for some time to figure out the difference between “normal” and “abnormal” grief.

RAIN: Easy Mindfulness for Grief

The RAIN method of mindfulness, is useful in grief for examining, and better understanding, what you’re feeling rather than just having those feelings take over.

Meaning-Making After Loss

Meaning-making can take you from a place where all you see is the bad that comes from loss to a place where you can start to see the “good.”

The Existential Crisis of Grief

In the last article we addressed the question of why. Which is a massive question. Why did they die? Why him? Why her? The other side of that coin is why not him? Why not her? Why not me?

Why Did They Die?

In the context of grief, the question of “why” can be one of the most infuriating thoughts that you come back to again and again. Discover the 3 challenges of “why” and how to face them.

Grief and Exercise

If you need a little push toward starting or restarting a routine of regular exercise, there is ever-mounting evidence showing that exercise doesn’t just promote physical health but mental health as well.

Thoughts Dictate Emotions

If you’re bothered by specific behaviors that stem from emotional overwhelm it’s possible to better understand what and why you’re feeling the way you are by tracking your thoughts.

Letting Toxic People Go

Suddenly the bad behavior you previously tolerated from a friend, significant-other, or family member becomes completely intolerable because you no longer have the energy to explain it away or keep up the illusion that it doesn’t bother you.

How Did They Die: Preparing for Questions After Loss

You have every right to say, “Thank you for your concern, but I’d rather not talk about it right now.” You also have the right to say you’re “fine” when some colleague you hardly know asks how you’re doing.

Why Am I So Crabby?

When we are bereaved our fuse gets shorter and grace is a little harder to muster, so often we take offense to what other people say and are quick to snap back. I’m not here to invalidate your emotions or actions, but rather encourage you to take a breath and consider your reaction before responding.

When Will I Feel Normal After Someone Dies?

There is no simple answer to this question, because the old version of “normal life” ceases to exist along with the person who was lost. To feel normal again, survivors have to develop and accept a new version of what normal means, which can take months or years.

Four Tasks of Mourning

Grief theory can’t explain everything, but it may bring some insight you can relate to or otherwise shed some light on your grief experience.

Staying Healthy After Loss

Some physical symptoms of grief may be sticking around long enough to create a concern. This could be a good time to take stock of your health and wellness.

God and Grief

Religion and spirituality are not the main focus of Grief Compass, but we would be remiss if we didn’t acknowledge that they are a major influence on the way many people experience grief, and the way that grief can be complicated.

Work-Grief Balance

You’re not going back to work the same, though most people will expect you to. If at all possible take it easy and do your best to set reasonable expectations for yourself and clearly communicate them to your colleagues.