If you’re interested in incorporating mindfulness practice into your daily life, this is a perfect beginners guide for grief and mindfulness.
Here are a few signs that may indicate your thoughts, or the thoughts of someone you’re concerned about, are turning from normal grief toward dangerous suicidal ideation.
“Normal” is pretty much impossible to define in the context of grief, but professionals in bereavement education, coaching, and counseling have been trying for some time to figure out the difference between “normal” and “abnormal” grief.
The RAIN method of mindfulness, is useful in grief for examining, and better understanding, what you’re feeling rather than just having those feelings take over.
Meaning-making can take you from a place where all you see is the bad that comes from loss to a place where you can start to see the “good.”
In the last article we addressed the question of why. Which is a massive question. Why did they die? Why him? Why her? The other side of that coin is why not him? Why not her? Why not me?
In the context of grief, the question of “why” can be one of the most infuriating thoughts that you come back to again and again. Discover the 3 challenges of “why” and how to face them.
If you need a little push toward starting or restarting a routine of regular exercise, there is ever-mounting evidence showing that exercise doesn’t just promote physical health but mental health as well.
This exercise isn’t meant to determine if a thought is good or bad just whether the thought is true and if it is useful.
If you’re bothered by specific behaviors that stem from emotional overwhelm it’s possible to better understand what and why you’re feeling the way you are by tracking your thoughts.
There are commonly two root thoughts for the guilt felt after someone dies:
Why didn’t I …?
Suddenly the bad behavior you previously tolerated from a friend, significant-other, or family member becomes completely intolerable because you no longer have the energy to explain it away or keep up the illusion that it doesn’t bother you.
You have every right to say, “Thank you for your concern, but I’d rather not talk about it right now.” You also have the right to say you’re “fine” when some colleague you hardly know asks how you’re doing.
Compassion fatigue sets in when someone becomes indifferent to your suffering because of the frequency of your need for support. It’s crappy, but it’s true. It’s also human nature.
When we are bereaved our fuse gets shorter and grace is a little harder to muster, so often we take offense to what other people say and are quick to snap back. I’m not here to invalidate your emotions or actions, but rather encourage you to take a breath and consider your reaction before responding.
There is no simple answer to this question, because the old version of “normal life” ceases to exist along with the person who was lost. To feel normal again, survivors have to develop and accept a new version of what normal means, which can take months or years.
Grief theory can’t explain everything, but it may bring some insight you can relate to or otherwise shed some light on your grief experience.
Some physical symptoms of grief may be sticking around long enough to create a concern. This could be a good time to take stock of your health and wellness.
Religion and spirituality are not the main focus of Grief Compass, but we would be remiss if we didn’t acknowledge that they are a major influence on the way many people experience grief, and the way that grief can be complicated.
You’re not going back to work the same, though most people will expect you to. If at all possible take it easy and do your best to set reasonable expectations for yourself and clearly communicate them to your colleagues.